CAN TRUST BE RESTORED AFTER AN AFFAIR?
In a word, Yes.
Recovering trust and being able to forgive or accept a betrayal feels like a mountain of insurmountable tasks. They can be huge obstacles to overcome. It is however crucial to work on restoring trust if a fulfilling relationship is going to resume. I have helped hundreds of couples recover from the effects of an affair and I can do the same for you.
DOES IT FEEL LIKE YOUR MARRIAGE IS OVER AFTER THE AFFAIR WAS DISCOVERED?
IS FORGIVING AN INFIDELITY EVEN POSSIBLE?
DO YOU WONDER HOW AND WHY THE BETRAYAL HAPPENED?
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When an affair is discovered in a long term relationship, it shatters trust. It does not matter if it happened and ended many years ago, or if it’s happening right now, trust is utterly lost. You start to wonder if you should hire a Marriage Counselor or a Divorce Lawyer. So many questions arise during this time: How did this happen? Can the Marriage be saved? Would it happen again if we stay together? It is difficult to know where to start and what to decide. This creates confusion, exhaustion and even, rage.
It can be a time of extreme, roller coaster like, emotions that surface frequently and unexpectedly. Many couples relive the pain endlessly in drawn out conversations, and many report not finding these talks productive as they feel they become arguments that hurt them even further.
I have helped hundreds of couples recover from the effects of an affair and I can do the same for you.
UP TO 40% OF COUPLES EXPERIENCE A BETRAYAL
Statistics regarding infidelity can vary greatly because of the taboo nature of this topic. It’s difficult for couples to admit it. The message out there is: “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Even friends and family with the best intentions can be clueless as to how to help a couple wanting to heal from this tough situation.
By understanding the affair, addressing the individual and relationship issues that lead to it and creating new habits to nurture the relationship, we can together save your relationship.
HEAL AFTER AN AFFAIR
Very often, even if you as the betrayed person in the affair decide to forgive and move forward with the relationship, the issue lingers in the back of your mind and you really can’t get over what happened. You can try to avoid the topic alltogether but the unsatisfaction and unhappiness is there. It can show up in how you feel about yourself and it can also show up in your health and in how we interact with everyone else.
This is where getting help can be invaluable. We can assess your particular situation, bring the unresolved issues to the forefront, decide how/if moving forward is possible and help you regain your peace of mind.
What are the steps to heal from an affair?
Working through an affair requires commitment and dedication. The process is a combination of mending, revealing problem areas of the relationship, and working on them to make permanent changes in the marriage.
How long does it take to heal from an affair?
The process may take a few months to two years, depending on the complexity of the situation. Its different in each case.